I'm not one to talk about really personal things on this blog. Usually the things I put on here, are what's considered the "basics." Things I love, things I want, things I dislike, etc...But for the most part, this is a public forum where anyone can see everything I put up-so I try to be careful. But last night, my best friend sent me an email...I feel like before you go any further reading this blog, you should read this first.
Almost 2 months ago, I was able to get rid of a poison friend. One who was constantly negative, competitive, irresponsible and just rudely opinionated about almost everything I did. Everything was a competition. When Geo bought a new car, her response was-"Well, my bf (at the time-who was a real winner, lemme tell you) has the same one, but it's newer and faster." I guess she never realized that little comments like that pile up. Every time I felt like I had something positive to say about what was going on in my life, she was always right there to constantly put something down about it. When I introduced her to my Best (the one who sent me the article) she pushed herself on her so much- that she eventually began to turn off my friend. People who had hung around her and saw how she continually upset me, began to question why I put myself through that. "We've been friends for so long..." was my response. I started to realize that you shouldn't have to pressure yourself into staying friends with someone if they no longer make you happy.
A few hours after our fight, as I was unsubscribing to her blog, I saw that she had blogged every single detail about it and how awful a person I was. To which one of her friends (who mind you, has met me once, and doesn't know a thing about me) commented on it and began to judge me. See that's the difference between her friends and mine...my best friends could've easily said all the nasty things they felt about her, since they have seen what she's like first-hand-but they didn't-because they're better people.
What's my point? My point is, as sad as I am about how it happened, I'm definitely not sad that it did happen. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and I felt free of the constant badgering, and the feeling of being suffocated every time we were together. That's not a friendship. The article made me even more comfortable about my decision. And I've become more appreciative of the bestest of friends that I do have in my life. I'm so thankful for each and every one of them.
I hope you all know how truly special you are...as cheesy as that sounds. Learn to never settle, even in friendships.